If you want your romantic relationship to be successful, be sure to check out and avoid the things that are most likely to ruin it which you will find discussed below.
Not dealing with your fear of abandonment
If there is one thing that will ruin even the very best romantic relationship is an unaddressed fear of abandonment. This is because such a fear can be so strong that it can greatly disrupt the power dynamic in any relationship, always putting the one with such concerns in a more vulnerable position.
The good news is it is possible to work through abandonment issues and stop them from negatively impacting the romantic relationship you are in. One option for this is to work with a trained counselor to identify where these issues come from and to find ways of meeting your own emotional needs so you are not so dependent on another to do this for you.
Not being clear about what you want from the relationship
Another thing that can kill a romantic relationship is not being clear about what you want from it. After all, different people have different expectations and needs from relationships, and if you aren’t clear about what yours are, you may find the chance of your partner meeting these very slim.
For example, some people may be very happy being in some type of open relationship where they can pursue intimacy with other people in addition to their partners. Others may be looking for a sugar daddy type of relationship. One where goods are exchanged for time spent together in a more pragmatic way than in traditional monogamy.
Not being able to communicate effectively in the relationship
Communication is the glue that holds any relationship together. Without good communication skills, even the most basic of interactions can turn into a conflict, or create more resentment to add to the pile.
The thing is that good communication is not only about being clear with what you are saying but also learning to listen to what the other person is saying as well. A skill known as active listening can be a useful tool for this because it helps the person listening do so in an engaged way, which in turn shows the other person you have heard what they have to say.
Avoiding arguments
Yes, that’s right last of all, one thing that can be very bad for your relationship over the long term is avoiding arguments. That’s not to say it’s healthy to spend every minute of every day screaming and shouting because it’s not. However, what is important is that you can recognise conflicts and appropriately discuss them.
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It’s also vital to note that if you don’t ever seem to argue in your relationship, you may wish to consider whether one person is doing all the compromising and work, something that can be very toxic and ultimately lead to a relationship breakdown. Additionally, if you no longer disagree about anything you may also wish to explore the idea that one or both of you are checked out of the relationship, and you may actually need to reconnect on an emotional level.
